We’ve transitioned into the final countdown to the New Year, and I’ve already made an empowering choice.
I’m choosing NOT to place intentional pressure upon myself by choosing NOT to set unreasonable expectations.
I’m saying “NO” again to 2019 resolutions.
Several years ago, I got stuck in one-upping my own sense of needing to be a next-level Wonder Woman with my New Year’s resolutions.
I was exhausted trying to:
Do it all.
Be it all.
Have it all.
No one AT ALL. Not even the dog.
Yet, every New Year, I would resolve that I COULD do this, I CAN figure this out, I WOULD be more disciplined, and I will be firmer with the kids. I was trapped as the “juggler” of schedules, deadlines, commitments, and obligations, unable to say no to any of them. And then I’d add the following for me, of course, …
- Work out 3 times a week. Lose 10 pound by March 31st.
- Plan weekly dinners, and meal prep on Monday. Assign tasks to the kids to help.
- Schedule one special night with each child each month.
- Take on one more significant project at work and go for that promotion.
These were my resolutions added to an already over-the-top-ridiculous-schedule. Most people described me as successful, but I was fairly certain that S.U.C.C.E.S.S. stood for “Seemingly Unending Conflicting Commitments, Expectations, Sleeplessness, and Stress.”
I WAS obsessively S.U.C.C.E.S.S.-ing and caught in the vicious Wonder Woman Wormhole.
Then, something changed.
Actually, I was maxed out and finally threw in the towel. I surrendered… unwillingly. I said NO to New Year’s Resolutions, and said YES to choosing a power word for the year.
Such a simple idea that was oddly appealing, perhaps because it was so abnormal for me!
A power word for a year is a defining word. It’s a word that serves as a guide highlighting your overall wish for the year. It often helps to consider what you want to be reflecting up in December of 2019.
These questions may help –
- It’s December 25th, 2019 and you’re sitting by a lovely fire and your dearest friend asks, so how was your year? And you reply, “My year was ___________. My year was full of ___________.’Here are some examples:
My year was happy.
My year was full of happy experiences.
My year was joyful.
My year was content. I’ve never felt this content before.
My year was peaceful.
My year was transformative.
My year was intentional.
- It’s December 25, 2019, and you are reflecting on the past year, how would you describe your feeling? How would you fill in this sentence, “I feel __________ about 2019.”I feel happy about the year.
I feel transformed by 2019.
I feel rejuvenated.
I feel empowered.
I feel joyful.
I feel loved.
I feel hopeful.
Are you feeling a little excited about choosing a word? These words are life-giving and empowering. In my opinion, resolutions often suck the life right out of us. We often feel defeated before we even begin.
The bottom line: Our choices lead to betterment when our choices are empowering.
Words create a shift in our thoughts. A shift in our thoughts creates a shift in our mindset. The most powerful precursor to life betterment is a shift in mindset. The result is a shift in our overall life to a place of betterment. Isn’t that the purpose of resolutions? to become better?
Let’s choose a more enjoyable and impactful way of creating what we desire – a more purposed, positive, intentional year!
Your Unique Word
Each one of us will have a unique power word because we are all on a different journey. My advice is to spend a significant time in prayer and ask for a word to be revealed to you. Trust your prayer and trust for an answer. You’ll feel it. You’ll know it when it’s the ‘one’ for 2019.
My power word has been ‘Joy’. I use this word to filter my thoughts, to choose my activities, and to determine whether I should say ‘yes’ or ’no’ to an invite.
I have prayerfully asked God to guide me to more joy in my life and to help me make wiser choices that create space for the joy to thrive.
‘Joy’ is written in my journal, in my Bible, in my calendar, and on post-its stuck to my desk. I am always reminded to choose joy and live with a joyful heart.
As I choose how to use my time, I prayerfully ask if this idea, event, or person will lead to joy. Not all experiences start off looking like joy or feeling joyful; however, the purpose and process may lead to a joy-filled outcome.
‘Joy’ has refrained me from:
… over-reacting to the burned green bean casserole that a dear family member boldly stated had “ruined the meal”. I chucked to myself and elegantly whispered, “It’s a new dish, charred legumes ala Karen.”
… feeling sad when I’ve heard rude statements at our family gatherings.
… reacting immediately to unsupportive friends who have said things that took the wind out of my sails.
… giving up on a project that was, and still is, very important to me.
‘Joy’ has created:
… deeper trust.
… greater vulnerability.
… stronger desire to pursue my passion.
… overall happiness.
… space and time to pursue a new hobby.
… a reason to be a better person.
Over the years, I’ve had other words such as: happy, open, obedient, transformative, and truth-filled. My favorite year so far has been when I chose the word ‘content’. I had resolved to find a place of pure contentment. The transformation that year was unbelievably refining and defining as that journey led to simplifying my home as well as releasing emotions that I had stuffed way down inside.
Let’s choose a word for you! This word will be unique to you and your current season of life. The word will feel ‘life-giving’ to you. You will feel the word ‘pull’ you into the future – a better future. Pray about it and ask God to help you choose where He wants you to focus for 2019. Throughout the year, you will feel the tug and pull of your focus to where God wants you to be, and in December 2019 you’ll experience the great reveal as why that word was for you. It’s powerful.
Once you have your power word for 2019, write the word in places and spaces that will keep you focused throughout the days, the weeks, months, and the entire year. We must be constantly reminded of where we are going, and let 2019 take us there!
It’s your time to feel… to be… to become… MORE!
Cheers to 2019!
This is a chance to redesign your life the way you want, so embrace it! Take some time to focus on creating a future that you are excited to live.
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