Have you seen the article titled 203 Habits for a Good Life?
Personally, I’ve chosen to go with the shorter & sweeter versions:
25 Best Habits in Life
7 Good Daily Habits
34 Morning Habits
We can all agree that good habits lead to a good life, however, when life throws us a real curve ball, it seems easier to throw in the towel on it all. There are 3 significant areas that definitely require your commitment to grow through your divorce and transform into an opportunity of grace and beauty.
- In our Faith & Spiritual Life
- With our Family & Friends
- With our Work & Finances
A good life is an accumulation of good habits. A habit is an action, a routine, a tendency, a practice that we repeat over and over that leads to some result – either positive or negative. Habits are not neutral and always feed growth or contribute to decline. We are focused on feeding our growth and transforming into a better version of ourselves.
Good habits are developed from a determined personal philosophy, or system of beliefs, held around each of the areas listed above. Your answers to the questions in each area determine how you have chosen to create habits that have been developing the life experience in that specific area. Let’s consider 5 questions in each area:
In our Faith & Spiritual Life:
- What do you believe?
- How will you express that belief?
- How do you experience those beliefs on a daily basis?
- How do you share your beliefs?
- How will your faith and spiritual life impact your relationships?
With our Family & Friends:
- What is important to teach your family?
- What is important in a friendship?
- How do you show kindness and love?
- Describe your ideal home life. Consider the environment, the language, the approach to health, the home you live in, involvement of extended family and friends with your immediate family. How can this be achieved?
- How will your beliefs shape your parenting of young children through adulthood? What are important messages to model for your children?
With our Work & Finance:
- How do you earn and income and how do you feel about your position?
- What is your income, expenses, budget?
- What is your philosophy about money?
- What is your approach to saving and creating a retirement plan?
- Describe the tasks and responsibilities of each family member that contribute to a healthy home environment. How will encourage involvement?
As we mentioned in the previous blog, finance is an area of high anxiety and stress. However, answering the questions above will create a framework for developing good habits to reach your financial goals. The accumulation of the good financial habits will lead to a healthy financial situation for you and your children.
For example, “I believe money is a tool used to facilitate opportunities for growth and acquiring skill sets to be learned and used in school, in the workforce, and in life.”
Habits created from this belief:
- Choosing to purchase a coding class for your 15-year-old son.
- Assigning chores to each family member in exchange for compensation based on age and needs. Compensation may be in the form of purchasing another experience, or monetary based on the child’s unique talents and interests.
- $100/month will be contributed to my retirement fund. This money will be acquired by choosing home brewed coffee more than purchasing from coffee shop.
- Develop healthy boundaries regarding extra expenses by asking the question: Is this something that our family spends money on? Teach children how to discern a correct answer and how to follow through on that answer.
- Donate annually to the (local library, food pantry, church ministry) in gratitude for the incredible services used daily.
The ‘why’ behind the habit propels the action. When our heads and hearts confirm and affirm the connection to the how these habits impact a healthy, good life, rapid growth in all area is inevitable.
“We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty.” – Maya Angelou
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