It’s time to recover from the scrolling & wishing, and jump into the creating & living out of your own vision for today and the future!
I’m here to tell you that the Good Life is present and powerful and possible… for you… right now!
The “If Only” Life
For much of my life, I was chasing the ‘Good Life’. You know, I’d say things like…
- If only I was a better cook, my kids would eat healthier.
- If the house was clean, I’d invite my own friends over for coffee.
- If I had the money, I’d buy a swimsuit that actually looked good on me.
- If my husband was home more, I wouldn’t feel so alone.
- If my kids listened to me, I wouldn’t be such an angry mom.
Yada, yada, yada… My days started and ended with “If only.”
Over the years, after buckets of coffee and generous doses of wisdom that can only be from God, I’m finally on to the true Good Life. In fact, most days, I’m certain that I’m living the Good Life.
For decades I was trapped in a box of expectations. As a well-educated, top of the class, professional woman in the prestigious area of Aerospace Engineering, I never imagined that my career would nearly come to a halt before it actually had the opportunity to take off. I had high expectations of proving myself professionally and carving a path for my career right after marriage and before motherhood.
The Different Plan
But God had a different plan, and I must admit that I wasn’t exactly thrilled. This began the decades of continues ups and downs. My desires and dreams seemed to be stuck in the “if only” box of my life. In fact, I often felt broken and angry and depressed. I felt lost.
My story, my journey, is not unusual. I have found that this is the most common journey. Perhaps the scenery is a little different – different career, different family, different location – but the feelings, the trials, the broken expectations are common daily experiences for every single human.
I felt lost not only because my plan, my expectations, and my desires seemed to have no place in my life, but because I didn’t have the support system I desperately needed to navigate through each of these difficult seasons.
In the first year of my marriage, my husband and I moved across country for a great adventure. Our plan was to dive into our dream careers, focus on our marriage, and in about 5 years consider children. Our 5 year plan was condensed into a 10 MONTH plan. Honestly, I was miserable rather than elated. My son was colicky. My career was on hold indefinitely and I was home with an unhappy baby… thousands of miles from family and friends.
As I reflect, I see clearly how that season was just that… a season. Decades later, my son that never slept and never stopped moving is grown and absolutely everything I dreamed for him to become. Our second son is also happily married and pursing the career of his dreams. We have journeyed together near and far – and all over the world! My husband and I are each other’s best friends, and we are enjoying life as empty nesters and working on our new vision for this time together.
And guess what… this season is also challenging, but it is also very very good!
The Good Life
As I reflect on it all – the highest peaks and the deepest valleys of this life journey – I have been convicted that there are 3 solid secrets to the Good Life –
Secret #1 – You’re good life is hiding in plain sight.
I needed each day of my life experience to refine my character and guide me into becoming the woman that God designed, not the woman that I wanted to design. There is a vast difference. When I was living in the “my” world and the “if only” limitations, I failed to see all the good and all His grace. This conviction has brought me to tears on many occasions because my “If only” has changed so much…
If only I took more time drawing on the sidewalk with chalk…
If only I hugged a little longer…
If only I spent more time playing on the floor…
Today’s “If only” wishes can never be recreated… because those were the moments of the Good Life that I couldn’t see IN those moments. My wish for you is that through my story, you can reconsider the value of this moment in time in your life. My wish is that God will reveal to you how this moment IS the Good Life… and all the goodness is very evident and visible in plain sight!
Secret #2 – Stop giving your life away.
When we are not clear on who we are and who we were designed to be through God’s eyes, we give ourselves and our time away to people and activities that do not serve our greater good or our purpose. How do we gain clarity? How do we know our vision is God-inspired? The only way is through time in prayer, actively reading His Word, reflecting, listening, and surrounding ourselves with women on the God-centered journey! This is a DAILY practice and a DAILY surrendering to His will for our life. The combination of our relationship with God and obeying the desires He places upon our hearts will lead to a vision that is unstoppable, life-giving, purposeful, and deeply satisfying.
Secret #3 – Your perceptions may be misguided or may not be reality.
How we choose to interpret each interaction and experience will reveal the health of our body, mind, and soul. When we are in the practice of choosing love in all situations, expecting the best, and leaving a lot of space for forgiveness and grace, we will experience more peace and joy in our daily life. However, our perceptions and our interpretations can also lead us down a path of anger, resentment, and torment where peace does not exist. As we walk in our faith and deepen our relationship with God, our ability to discern between the two paths will become easier and clearer. We will begin to see reality for what it is, and not what we ‘think’ it is. The gap is often wide – fill it with the love of Jesus – and not the brokenness of humanity.
And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them. Romans 8:28 NLT
I’d be thrilled to be on this journey with you. If you are looking for a faith-based online community for encouragement and resources on how to live the Good Life in faith and create a vision based on His desires for your life, join us! We’re choosing to be Fiercely In Love with our lives TOGETHER!